Gossip

Why do people gossip? That I can't answer because I do not really know myself. I can tell you what gossiping is though. Gossiping is when someone talks behind your back and says untruthful things about  you to hurt you and gossiping is when someone assumes something about you in terms of what others think about you or what they think about you. Again, people who gossip must have some lack of confidence in themselves, if they have to talk about others or put others down to make themselves look good. Gossip can take place anywhere it can happen to you when you are friends with someone you think is your friend, it can happen at work, in your family, at school, or even at church. I know what you're thinking you probably would not think that it would happen at church, but it does. And, here's how you can handle this type of behavior: 1. Ignore 2. Think about whether what people have said about you is true or false 3. Confront them if necessary, if it really offended you. 4. Don't tell people about your personal life and etc. You can still say hi of course to that person, but you don't have to tell them your whole life story about you personal life. Another important tip I'd like to add is gossiping can change people's perspective of you as a person. It's best not to do it. I would say telling them about your personal life is not going to help them in this gossiping area. They need to learn how to not gossip. I do not think many people realize how much gossiping can hurt others. Gossip can destroy relationships whether that be marriage, dating/courting, friendships, employee/work, and family. Spreading rumors/lies destroys and this is also the trick of the enemy (Satan) which is enmity against God. The bible talks of such things and says this is not the Christian behavior, you have to look the other way when someone does these things to you and forgive them. And, lastly do not get yourself involved in gossip either, if someone is talking about somebody do not participate excuse yourself and go the other direction to give them a message that this is not God's way to living holy. If you do not get it right, God will be the one to judge you of your wrong doings. Again, worry about yourself and not what others are doing. Focus on your own life. This is a topic I chose to help some who need this kind of message and it's something I've faced by having friendships with certain people and these are just some tips on how I deal with people who have gossiped about me in the past. I hope this helps someone and remember pray for them. God bless.