How to resolve issues in the church

How should issues be resolved in the church? They should be resolved according to how Christ would resolve them. They are the following ways:
Confront the person with whom you have an issue with. My way of approaching someone is Praise the Lord, may I speak with you? Always start off in a nice, sweet, positive, calm, and simple way. If you start off positive, it will end positively.Don't come off as strong, defensive, or negative (it wont end in a positive way).
When you talk with that person don't blame the person. Say I feel this way when you talked to me in this tone or I would appreciate it if you talked with me this way instead...
When you talk with the person, make sure you get everything off your chest that bothered you when that person did such and such. If you don't get everything off your chest, then you will continue to be bothered by what he or she did or said to you.
Respect the person you are talking to. Don't just say anything in any kind of manner and don't approach them in any kind of way. Don't give them the wrong vibe, which would be a negative vibe. (Reminder: Negative attitude= Negative Outcome).
Show compassion. Be willing to forgive. Say sorry if you did something to them. They should apologize if they did you wrong.
Sometimes you will come across people that will not acknowledge their wrongdoings. What you can do is just tell them you were upset with this..blah blah and just pray for them. Remember, no matter what you have to keep going on with your life.
If you hold things in or fester, you are going to suffer. Holding grudges makes you bitter and turns you into a person that you don't want to be. It's so much easier to forgive and forget, rather than hold stuff in and not forgive. Forgiving is asking for freedom for the hurts you encountered with someone or someone who did you wrong. Ask God for forgiveness. If you did that person wrong, ask for their forgiveness. In the end, if you choose to forgive God is going to work it out where you will forget what that person did to you.
Another thing to add: Talk to the person in person, do not email an issue to them (most people cant determine the tone in an email conversation, so its better to talk in person/ some statements can come off offensive to them).
Don't text an issue either.
It's okay to talk about the issue over the phone, but it's better to do it in person.

How should a Godly Leader, Authority leader in the church Be?

How should a Godly Leader or Authority figure be like in the church? They should be like the following:
 They should respect others in the church (towards all ages)
They should show love towards others (God is compassionate)
They should be like Christ
They should not punish members for doing wrong
They should pray for themselves and their church members
They should remember that when the bible says, "Obey them that have rule over you," that does not mean they can make you do stuff. God gives all his people freewill, they must decide what path they are going to take. They should persuade you to do what's right, but should never force you to do what's right. You have to make that decision alone.
They should not complain about issues in the church, they need to pray and fast about those things.
They should never discuss people's issues over the pulpit to the church. The bible says you need to confront issues with people that you have an issue with, you should never discuss this with others it creates issues.
They should approach you the right way. They should have a right attitude and a right tone.
They should be willing to forgive easily. Should not make you stand before the church when you confess your sins (this is a form of punishment). God does not punish us for our wrong doings, we may suffer from the consequences, but he does not punish us).
God is longsuffering and they should have this characteristic.
God is peaceful. Make peace with all men. Godly leaders and authority leaders need to remember this too.
God is merciful and graceful. Godly leaders and authority figures/leaders should be like this.
Practice what you preach.
Own up to your mistakes with people and be willing to apologize
Don't make unnecessary comments to church members that's not needed.
Be firm in what you say to people, but don't be too firm
Preach what's in the bible and leave your opinions about things out.
Make standards that make sense and don't confuse people about standards. They will more than likely question why you made certain standards. It's easy to say obey them that have rule over you for every standard, but the reality is the person is still going to be confused about why there are certain standards that don't make sense.
When you make people sit on the back seat or when you gossip about a person that did wrong, that's not showing love. You make them feel like they are unworthy, not loved, and not needed. God would not treat anyone that way. We are supposed to encourage people to do right and show love. God grants repentance, and he will have mercy and grace on whomever he will. God's love never fails and leaders have to remember to always show love.
Don't be so strict is another recommendation.