How should a Godly Leader, Authority leader in the church Be?

How should a Godly Leader or Authority figure be like in the church? They should be like the following:
 They should respect others in the church (towards all ages)
They should show love towards others (God is compassionate)
They should be like Christ
They should not punish members for doing wrong
They should pray for themselves and their church members
They should remember that when the bible says, "Obey them that have rule over you," that does not mean they can make you do stuff. God gives all his people freewill, they must decide what path they are going to take. They should persuade you to do what's right, but should never force you to do what's right. You have to make that decision alone.
They should not complain about issues in the church, they need to pray and fast about those things.
They should never discuss people's issues over the pulpit to the church. The bible says you need to confront issues with people that you have an issue with, you should never discuss this with others it creates issues.
They should approach you the right way. They should have a right attitude and a right tone.
They should be willing to forgive easily. Should not make you stand before the church when you confess your sins (this is a form of punishment). God does not punish us for our wrong doings, we may suffer from the consequences, but he does not punish us).
God is longsuffering and they should have this characteristic.
God is peaceful. Make peace with all men. Godly leaders and authority leaders need to remember this too.
God is merciful and graceful. Godly leaders and authority figures/leaders should be like this.
Practice what you preach.
Own up to your mistakes with people and be willing to apologize
Don't make unnecessary comments to church members that's not needed.
Be firm in what you say to people, but don't be too firm
Preach what's in the bible and leave your opinions about things out.
Make standards that make sense and don't confuse people about standards. They will more than likely question why you made certain standards. It's easy to say obey them that have rule over you for every standard, but the reality is the person is still going to be confused about why there are certain standards that don't make sense.
When you make people sit on the back seat or when you gossip about a person that did wrong, that's not showing love. You make them feel like they are unworthy, not loved, and not needed. God would not treat anyone that way. We are supposed to encourage people to do right and show love. God grants repentance, and he will have mercy and grace on whomever he will. God's love never fails and leaders have to remember to always show love.
Don't be so strict is another recommendation.